It has taken me a while to start using this blog, as I was not sure what I even want to write about. Would it be about personality types? I am an INFP and Enneagram type 5w4 and on a bad day I test as 4w5. My unquenchable thirst for knowledge and strong pull towards living a life of happy simplicity and minimalism is probably more Enneagram 5, but I am not (too) worried about that. (So I will get back to the happy, elegant simplicity and minimalism in a bit).
Or shall I write about a healthier and thinner me since I jumped on the Bantwagon with a Low Carb lifestyle 3 years ago? Here my Enneagram type 5 aspect was fighting back again… oh no wait, you are still busy with your coaching course… you don’t have credibility yet.
But I will however, shortly, post a mean Low Carb Quiche recipe! Delicious, tried and tested and our family favorite. And it is quick and easy to make. Breakfast, lunch or supper. Simplicity! Simple eating, simple living.
So THIS is where this current journey of mine started:
As an INFP I just couldn’t do the deadlines, stress and traffic anymore. The SF and ST world is just not for me. My soul yearned for peace, calm and simplicity. For years I was rushing pass my husband and kids in the morning, and feeling disconnected from my own life, my emotions (Enneagram 5 again), my home. What was first just a nagging feeling became a decision over the span of 2 years time to start my own home-based business. I planned for it, emotionally and financially and could finally leave the corporate ”matrix” middle of April. I knew that wanting a simpler life would not be a step backward. It was a new beginning for me to create the life that I truly want.
I am still settling in at home. The first 2 weeks I felt totally disorientated. No peak traffic, no deadlines. Do I make breakfast for the family first (my husband took this over for years because I had to leave before him) or do I shower first? I realised how I thrived on the adrenaline day in and day out, and without it I felt somewhat lost. Like a scaffold that kept me up straight and all of a sudden it collapsed around me.
I need structure like a fish needs water though. It is an INFP thing. We don’t need strict routine but we do need daily structure to ground us. I can be incredibly practical and focused on a task but if I don’t have structure I can get lost in my Introverted Feeling and Extroverted Intuition and just like Alice fall down that rabbit hole.
When I chose my company name, Urban Simplicity, back in October 2016, little did I know how this journey would unfold. Living a life of conscious simplicity. At the time I didn’t fully understand exactly what that means.
My soul’s yearning for simplicity, a calmer life full of meaning that we (family and myself) truly thrive in, not just dream about, brought me straight to Minimalism and simplifying life. And straight to Uncluttered Course by Joshua Becker, the Minimalist Lifestyle Guru (or he is that in my view anyway). Check out his Becoming Minimalist website here
What is Minimalism? Or maybe I should start with what is Minimalism not?
It is NOT self-deprivation.
It is liberation.
Minimalism might initially conjure up all kinds of images in the mind of going without your favorite possessions or giving up some of life’s comfort and luxuries. I would call it an alternative lifestyle which liberates you from the world telling you to own certain things, lots of things, to be somebody. It liberates your identity from your belongings and to fit into the ”norm” set by society.
Minimalism is an intentional lifestyle. An art of letting go. Letting go of old and sentimental things which clutters up space, old worn out ideas, old beliefs. You ask WHY before you buy. You unburden your life so you have time to accomplish more. You only surround yourself with the useful and beautiful. You free up time to spend time with your loved ones, do the things you love and bring calm and joy into your life.
Too much stuff leads to clutter and in turn that leave us feeling anxious and overwhelmed. Clutter is a major cause of stress and indecision in our lives, but it is hardly ever recognized as such. For example, my decision-fatigue in front of my closet every morning has been real for many years. What a relief to now design a capsule or minimalist wardrobe only wearing clothes that I love… no more indecision because I have too much to choose from. Personally I love the elegance and timelessness of a French capsule wardrobe (must be my French ancestry) so I will be working on this over the next few weeks.
I am currently in Week 6 of Uncluttered Course and recovering from this major cause of stress, and simplifying life. This coming week I am starting on the kitchen. I am looking forward to simplifying this space. It is the heart of my home and for me a source of joy. I spend a lot of time trying out new Low Carb recipes for my business and cooking healthy, but simple meals for the family.
Owning less stuff helps me focus on what I really want in life… happiness, joy and simplicity. What a joy to walk into a room now and be embraced by welcoming calmness in stead of overwhelm. I am really excited to share my progress and journey this way and introduce more people to this kind of liberating, intentional living.